The first proved to be the hardest, as I look at my heart to see what can hinder my walk with Christ and my relationship with my husband.
So let me tell you what a wife of noble character does not look like:
1. She does not rival her husband. *on occasion this may happen, but it is not a constant thing*
2. She does not mope around and complain about her housework. *not usually... unless it's laundry LOL*
3. She does not overspend and put her family into debt. *no*
4. She is not bored, discontent, greedy or selfish. *yes, I think pity parties are apart of our human condition. hate that!*
5. She does not gossip and slander others. *not usually, but there are moments when with close friends this happens*
6. She does not spend her days doing leisurely shopping, texting, emailing, web browsing, watching late night movies, and sleeping in. *sleeping in- is a huge thing for me having struggled with depression it is a daily battle for me to get out of bed.*
7. She does not criticize, mock, or disrespect her husband. *I think I try to protect his image more than my own.*
8. She does not have children and a husband who embarrass her. *No. However, they do make me laugh at their craziness. ;)*
9. She does not let her outer beauty take precedence over her inner beauty. *Well, this is apparent if you see my make-up less face everyday*
10. She does not take God’s word lightly. *nothing ruffles my feathers more than when someone takes scripture out of context, and when I fail at the very thing I work at!*
The second list, I am lucky to say that I have. Trust is such a vital life line in a marriage. I remember growing up being told by my father that he trusted me to go out with my boyfriend (now husband), but the moment I broke that by not following his rules the trust was broken. It would take a lot to gain that trust back. I am a firm believer in this statement, yet God has shown me that He can give that trust back to the person you hurt by His merciful grace.
1. Money – Can he depend on you to spend it wisely? *yes*
2. Children – Can he trust you to train your children wisely? *yes*
3. Home – Can he trust you to run an orderly home? *yes*
4. Reputation – Can he trust you to not speak poorly of him behind his back? *yes*
5. Faithfulness – Can your husband trust you to not build emotional connections with other men? *yes*
6. Emotions – Can your husband trust you to be self-controlled when under pressure? *yes, however I know he would check to make sure my depression was acknowledged (if present) and taken care of.*
7. Choices – Can your husband trust you to make wise choices when urgent situations arise? *yes*
These are things that we may think are automatic, yet if we look at the specifics we may find more that we have to pray and fast that God would help us with. I value trust so much. I've seen it lost, and it is such a painful thing.
It is heard to strive for noble character when everything in this word tells us to do the very thing we shouldn't. It is hard to earn that trust when we can be too busy to keep the house clean, or talk badly when your friends are doing it. We must not be of this world even though we are in it. It is so much easier to be "good" in the world's standard, but that is not what we are called to be.
Raising a girl in today's world is just as hard as raising a boy. I feel this when we work with youth each week... it's rough...